Elvis and Me

Elvis and Me is a 1985 American biography written by Priscilla Beaulieu Presley, the former wife of singer Elvis Presley. The book recalls Priscilla's perspective (see critique) on their meeting on an American army base in Germany and their subsequent relationship.

The book's rights were bought in 1987 by movie makers for a six figures' number . It was then made into a television movie in 1988, directed by Larry Peerce.

Elements in the story

Memphis: Elvis' family and Graceland

Priscilla Beaulieu Presley writes that Elvis did not approve of his father's relationship with divorcee Dee Stanley and did not attend their wedding (p.97). After the marriage Elvis bought a home on Heritage Drive in Memphis where Vernon Presley and his new wife resided. (p.95). On the rare occasions Dee Stanley-Presley came to Graceland, Elvis would get up and leave the room but she recounts that at Christmas or birthdays he did his best to at least be civil towards his stepmother.

In her book, Priscilla describes how her father reluctantly allowed her to live in Memphis, Tennessee. The initial arrangement was she live with Vernon Presley and his second wife and attend a Memphis school. She wrote that she then moved into Graceland bit by bit.

The nights with Elvis

Her desciptions of the nights she spent with Elvis suggest that the star was not overtly sexual towards her. She says about one of these nights: "Gently and tenderly he was passionate ... I felt sure the night would end with Elvis finally making love to me. I was drunk with ecstasy. I wanted him. I became bolder, reaching out to him, totally open and honest in my need. Then, as before when we'd reach this point, he stopped and whispered, 'Don't get carried away, Baby. Let me decide when it should happen. It's a very sacred thing to me. It always has been. You know that I want it to be something to look forward to. It keeps the desire there.' "

In another chapter of her book, when talking about a "cleansing period" in Elvis's life, Priscilla claims that "Any sexual temptations were against everything he was striving for, and he did not wish to betray me, the girl waiting for him at home who was preparing to be his wife."

According to her account, Elvis told her that they had to wait until they were married before having intercourse. He said, "I'm not saying we can't do other things. It's just the actual encounter. I want to save it." Priscilla adds, "Fearful of not pleasing him-of destroying my image as his little girl-I resigned myself to the long wait. Instead of consummating our love in the usual way, he began teaching me other means of pleasing him. We had a strong connection, much of it sexual. The two of us created some exciting and wild times."

Daily life with Elvis

She tells of the presence of prescription drugs from the first time she visited Elvis Presley in America. He took placidyls to get to sleep in ever increasing doses. She tells (p.151) how he would wake up at his normal time around 4:00 in the afternoon but would be groggy and irritable for a few hours from the heavy dose of pills. He started taking Dexedrine to wake up.

Priscilla recounts (p.158) Elvis liked old movie classics revolving around family or struggles to survive in the world such as Les Miserables, Wuthering Heights, It's a Wonderful Life, Mr. Skeffington, Miracle on 34th Street, Letter from an Unknown Woman and his favorite, The Way of All Flesh the story of a self-sacrificing father, his wife and children.

Priscilla's book describes several episodes involving Elvis' explosive temper and his jealous nature, including how he went into a rage and threatened to fire a male employee who had acted too "friendly" with Priscilla.

Affairs with other women

Conversely, she writes about Presley's double standard for his own behavior. His alleged promiscuity with other women led to several confrontations. Priscilla says she was aware he had been dating Anita Wood, a girl from Memphis, when they first met in Germany and that he had continued the relationship for nearly two years following his discharge from the army. When he asked Priscilla to move to Memphis he told her the relationship with Wood was over but she describes later finding a packet of love letters from Anita Wood in the attic at Graceland. However, according to Elvis's own words, he didn't make love to Anita Wood the whole four years he went with her. "Just to a point," he said. "Then I stopped. It was difficult for her too, but that's just how I feel."

Priscilla further says she read every one and writes Presley admitted to her he had a number of affairs with some of the women who co-starred in his films, but they "meant nothing" and all had been before she came to live with him. Nevertheless she understood these affairs were going on while he was professing love to Anita Wood.

In a televised interview on January 14 2005, with Larry King on CNN's Larry King Live, Anita Wood said that following media reports of a girlfriend in Germany, Elvis "had me believing that she (Priscilla Beaulieu) was just a friend and her daddy was in the Army with him, and there was nothing to it whatsoever."

The Ann-Margret affair

Of the many women involved with Elvis Presley the one who worried Priscilla Beaulieu most was actress/singer Ann-Margret, who co-starred with him in the film Viva Las Vegas. In her book Priscilla devotes four pages to the subject (175 to 178). She writes there was a lot of publicity about a romance between Elvis and Ann-Margret during the 1963 filming and the following weeks when Presley returned to Hollywood to record the music and prepare for his next film. Despite his denials of an affair Beaulieu went to Los Angeles and stayed with him. Aware Priscilla was there, Ann-Margret took matters into her own hands and suddenly announced to the Los Angeles press that she was engaged to Elvis Presley. The news was picked up by every major newspaper in America and Elvis informed Priscilla that he and Colonel Tom Parker thought it best for her to "go back to Memphis till it calms down." Beaulieu picked up a vase and fired it across the room, screaming that Ann-Margret should "keep her ass in Sweden where she belongs." But, desperate to please him, she went back to Graceland the next day. Elvis showed up two weeks later, admitted the affair was true but promised he had ended it. Of all the movie stars Elvis Presley worked with, Ann-Margret was the only one to attend his funeral.

The very next line of Priscilla's book says that after the Ann-Margret ordeal she soon suspected there were other women. She started traveling everywhere with him but says she would still "get crazed with worry." Priscilla writes she was afraid that the moment she was away from him another woman could slip in. She says when she heard a rumor about one of the starlets she would sometimes do things like suggest coming to the movie set but he would refuse. In other instances she recites how her insecurities would lead her to imitate the other woman's appearance, changing her clothes, hairstyle and makeup to hopefully please him.

If she forcefully challenged Presley on her suspicions he would threaten to send her home to her parents. One such confrontation led to a screaming match where he told her to get out. Bags packed, chauffeur ready to take her to the airport, he changed his mind at the last minute and she willingly stayed. Priscilla writes that it was years later before she realized his tactics were part of a need to control her. This was all before they were married but in her 2005 made-for-television documentary titled Elvis by the Presleys, she admitted he had affairs with other women during their marriage.

The Beatles' shadow, mysticism and drugs

By 1965 The Beatles had overwhelmed the music industry and Presley’s record sales began to slip noticeably. Uncertain about who he was and where his career was going he turned to spiritualism, dragging an uninterested Priscilla with him. He had not performed live for several years and labeled most of his movies as a joke. Her book says, by the time filming was to begin on Clambake (released 1967), Presley's growing distress with the quality of his films led to a despondency accompanied by overeating and his normal 170 pound (77 kg) weight ballooned to 200 lb (91 kg). The movie studio ordered him to lose the weight in a hurry, marking the introduction of diet pills to the already excessive regimen of placidyls and Dexedrine which would eventually kill him.

In his search for a "higher state of consciousness" Presley became fascinated with the occult and metaphysical phenomena. Priscilla relates how during his spiritual quest everyone around them saw Presley's personality change dramatically from vibrant and playful to being passive and introverted. She said Presley had gone through a period of celibacy, in keeping with the teachings of an Indian guru. "He was going through a cleansing period, physically and spiritually. ... He loved me and deeply wanted to be faithful to me but never felt certain that he could resist temptation. It was a persistent battle, and it even got to the point where he felt he had to resist me." For the next few weeks he felt that he had to withdraw himself from the temptations of sex. He said, "We have to control our desires so they don't control us. If we can control sex, then we can master all other desires." When they were in bed, "he took his usual dose of sleeping pills, handed me mine, and then, fighting off drowsiness from the pills, pored over his metaphysical books" Priscilla was not interested, and recalled Elvis saying "Things will never work out between us, Cilla, because you don't show any interest in me or my philosophies."

When this phase of his life passed she and Elvis had a bonfire and burned the stacks of magazines and books he had accumulated on the subject. Priscilla writes they tried marijuana during this time but didn't like it because it made them ravenously hungry, with extra weight the unwanted result. Although Presley abhorred street drugs Priscilla tells how they used LSD. While they both thought it had been an "extraordinary experience" they were afraid of it and experimented that one time only.

Marriage, family, and the Nancy Sinatra factor

Priscilla Ann Beaulieu and Elvis Presley were married on May 1, 1967 in Las Vegas, Nevada. She wrote that being called Mrs. Elvis Presley sounded better than live-in Lolita, teen heartthrob or other labels given her in the past by some of the press. After the wedding ceremony Frank Sinatra's private jet flew them to their Palm Springs, California home. Like the romantic she claimed Elvis was, he carried his new bride across the threshold singing "The Hawaiian Wedding Song", then carried her straight to the bedroom.

After a second wedding reception at Graceland for friends and Memphis locals, Priscilla and Elvis went to his ranch near Horn Lake, Mississippi where they locked themselves away for several days of much needed privacy. However the press and the curious showed up, lining a fence on the property's perimeter and standing on the tops of cars to take photos.

Priscilla Presley says they planned on children but not right away and she was not prepared for her pregnancy. She considered an abortion, in part because Elvis had made derogatory comments in the past about "women using pregnancy as an excuse to let themselves go." As a result of her constant sense of insecurity she went on a diet and lost weight so that by the time she gave birth she weighed less than she had before getting pregnant. She wrote that during her pregnancy they had made love passionately until she began hearing rumors about Elvis and his co-star on the set of the film Speedway. When Priscilla Presley asked her husband about the stories he dismissed them out of hand, telling her she was being overly sensitive due to her "condition." However, six months into her pregnancy, Nancy Sinatra telephoned Priscilla and said she wanted to give her a baby shower. Priscilla wrote that she was apprehensive about such a request coming from a woman she hardly knew but Elvis assured her it was a good idea and she should accept. Priscilla says she went along with it and got along well with Sinatra. All seemed to be nothing more than her insecurity fueled by the never-ending gossip columns until a week or so later when Elvis informed her he needed time to think and wanted a trial separation. Numb, all she could say was: "You've got it. Just tell me when to leave." She lived in agony for days but he changed his mind without ever saying a thing. Two months later, their daughter Lisa Marie was born in Memphis on February 1 1968.

The '68 Comeback Special to the end

Free to shape his own career after the MGM motion picture contract expired in 1968, although still bound to complete two more films, Presley accepted an offer from the NBC network to do a television special. Priscilla wrote that NBC executives offered "open development" along with a young director named Steve Binder who was receptive to presenting Presley in a way he could be himself. Elvis Presley's '68 Comeback Special was an enormous success, the highest-rated television special of the year and his closing song titled If I Can Dream became his first million-selling record in several years.

The television special motivated him and he began recording at the African American-influenced American Sound Studios in Memphis owned by Chips Moman. Priscilla writes that, filled with new energy, he recorded so many songs RCA Records needed a year and a half to release them all. Included in these sessions were hits such as Suspicious Minds that went to No.1 on the Billboard Charts, In the Ghetto and Kentucky Rain. He signed to perform for a month at the new International Hotel in Las Vegas. Every show was sold out with thousands turned away at the door. This success led to a five-year contract for appearances twice a year, with the largest fee ever paid to any singer in history. Unfortunately his renewed popularity brought a large increase in the number of death threats, requiring a significant increase in personal security.

Priscilla Presley said that after years of unhappiness over his career, for a time his triumphant return to a live stage brought new vitality to their marriage. However, before long the renewed stardom with regular touring around the United States and appearances in Las Vegas meant he was away from his family more, reviving the problem of other women in his life. The day he suggested she cut back on her regular visits to see him in Las Vegas only added to her anxieties and things grew worse when she went to their Palm Springs home and found a number of letters from girls showing they had obviously been there.

In her book Priscilla Presley admits she had two affairs of her own and their up and down marriage was irreparably broken down by 1972. The last straw came when Elvis, possibly having learned of the second affair with her karate instructor, forced himself on her in his Las Vegas hotel room, telling her, "This is how a real man makes love to a woman."

Separated on February 23 1972, the Presleys divorced amicably on October 9 1973, mutually agreeing to share custody of their daughter. Elvis had made another televised special called Elvis: Aloha from Hawaii in January of 1973 but after not seeing him for several months prior to the actual court hearing, Priscilla was bewildered by his physical appearance, remarking on how swollen his hands were when she held them in hers. Less than four years later, he was dead.

A different view in Suzanne Finstad's book

In Suzanne Finstad's book, Child Bride: The Untold Story of Priscilla Beaulieu Presley (1997) , there is a completely different account of Priscilla Presley's life, painting her in a rather negative light and describing her as a "wild child" and "sexpot". The sources of this book are several people who knew Elvis and Priscilla well, among them many friends from Priscilla's childhood and adolescence, Elvis's stepbrother Rick Stanley, Mike Edwards, Elvis's ex-girlfriends and the wives of the Memphis Mafia men. The author writes that Priscilla promised sexual favors in exchange for meeting Elvis with Currie Grant, a married, 27-year-old man who knew the singer, that she wasn't a virgin on her wedding night, as she and Elvis slept together on their second date. The book also says that Priscilla didn't want to come to live with Elvis, but that her marriage was part of a mastermind for fame hatched by Priscilla and her mother and that she never loved Elvis. Finstad takes many quotes that Priscilla has made and calls them a web of lies that she has spun in publications such as Elvis and Me.

Priscilla denied Currie's allegations and sucessfully sued him for defamation.even though he was a show off she shouldnt of done it

Personal Jesus

Personal Jesus by Depeche Mode (#368 on Rolling Stone magazine's list of "The RS 500 Greatest Songs of All Time" [1]) was inspired by Elvis and Me [2].

"It's about how Elvis was her [Priscilla Presley's] man and her mentor and how often that happens in love relationships," [Martin] Gore said. "How everybody's heart is like a god in some way."

— Rolling Stone magazine