Talk:Au pair

A How-to guide?

Some of the information on specific countries read like how-to guides, which Wikipedia is not. See the example of Italy specifically. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 96.55.116.194 (talk) 05:03, 26 August 2010 (UTC)

uniforms

Do some people force their au pair to wear a uniform, like a maid or a servant boy? If, which kind of clothes are the au pairs forced to wear? Skirts or blouses for girls and white shirts with ties for boys? (OK, I know most au pairs are girls, but some are also boys). (unsigned)

I don't think so. The normal relationship between an au pair and her host is more equal than a uniform would suggest. I think you are thinking more of the sort of au pairs that you might find on other internet sites! --JimmyTheWig 16:33, 27 July 2005 (UTC)

Maybe someone who has been or is a a real (not thoose on the Internet sites) au pair, or hosts or had hosted an au pair can answer this question? Again: If, what kind of uniform? (unsigned)

We are currently looking for an au-pair. My wife used to be an au-pair. So I think my comments are at least partially informed. I am not aware of au-pairs wearing uniforms. --JimmyTheWig 08:21, 28 July 2005 (UTC)

I am looking for the family for au pair. My e mail : ostapenkon@mail.ru

The au pair shouldn't be forced to wear a uniform, because she (or he) is not to be a servant - but a part of the family, an equal. There are however some that will force them to wear uniforms as well as treat their au pair like a servant or even like a slave in different ways. This is very unfortunate.

I'm an au pair currently in Norway. I'm not forced to wear a uniform, nor are any of the au pairs that go to my language class. The laws are very, very strict in this country pertaining to how au pairs are treated. http://www.udi.no/templates/Tema.aspx?id=4661 That link is to immigration services in Norway, specifically, the au pair page. There should be a link to the contract, ect as well from there to verify what I've said. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 80.202.51.143 (talk) 07:45, 18 September 2008 (UTC)

Typo in nationality?

"In the UK, an au pair must be a national of the one of the European countries of Andorra, Faroe Islands, ..."

Is this a typo that should read

"In the UK, an au pair must be a national of the one of the European countries or Andorra, Faroe Islands, ..."

(i.e. "or" instead of "of")?

Or is this made up?

Can a family in the UK not have an American au-pair?

--JimmyTheWig 16:30, 27 July 2005 (UTC)

• Ok, I've confirmed things from the Home Office website and have clarified the text in the article. --JimmyTheWig 13:14, 28 July 2005 (UTC)

Useful NYT article on demand for Chinese Au Pairs in US

This was in today's NYT: To Give Children an Edge, Au Pairs From China. I'm sure the editors interested in this can use it. --Bobak 02:44, 6 September 2006 (UTC)

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Au pair éshté njé vajzé apo njé djal i/e cili/a punon per njé familje né njé shtet té huaj , i ndihmon per kryrjen e punéve te shtépis edhe i shikon fémijét e vegjel, aty mund ta mesoj njé gjuh té re(shembull English).--90.146.185.107 (talk) 16:05, 21 October 2008 (UTC)

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Plural is AUX PAIRS in french language .

In singular : A + LE PAIR = AU PAIR In plural : A + LES PAIRS = AUX PAIRS

A + LE = AU A + LES = AUX

it is abreviatude format. (89.24.82.224 (talk) 23:59, 21 January 2009 (UTC))

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Doesn't au pair mean in pairs? Done in pairs? —Preceding unsigned comment added by 67.225.35.37 (talk) 00:38, 14 November 2009 (UTC)

Completed article with Balzac. Each of Pair and au pair have several different meanings in french (see http://atilf.atilf.fr/ for instance). Although those word are still commonly used separately today, using them together might be somewhat idiomatic. In french, Au pair means à parité. So I assume english translation is nearer to the parity word, defined by http://www.thefreedictionary.com/parity as «3. The equivalent in value of a sum of money expressed in terms of a different currency at a fixed official rate of exchange. 4. Equality of prices of goods or securities in two different markets.» which is the original meaning in France, with the value of the job payed by the value of the home and limited difference.

Article needs additional citations for verification

I added the refimprove tag. The article consists almost entirely of un-cited assertions, which look like the opinions of some person or organization.

Please add cites for all of this material, in order to demonstrate that it is indeed | NPOV and | reliable.

Thanks. - 189.122.91.31 (talk) 07:29, 29 April 2010 (UTC)

added information

The problem of sexual abuse might be mentioned in the article though I have no first hand knowledge on it or how it might be included. It can be both ways. If it is included, it should be short since this is only a small part of the subject, not the main part.

Abuse of the au pair by one of the parents

http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/news/article-15202122-wife-found-photos-of-au-pair-in-bed-with-husband.do

She had found the photographs, including two showing oral sex, in an envelope with her partner's name on it when she went searching for nail clippers in the au pair's room at their home in Staines and opened a drawer.

She and Patrick Diavewa, who have been together for five years, had hired Italian Valerie Del Franco, 23, to look after their children aged two and seven months. Within three months the affair had begun.

Abuse of the child by the au pair

http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_528573.html

AN INDONESIAN maid had sex with her employer's 11-year-old son after fondling and touching him, a district court heard on Wednesday. The court heard that the accused pulled him into her room and performed oral sex on him.

Indonesian, Italian au pairs were involved. Suomi Finland 2009 (talk) 20:33, 23 August 2010 (UTC)

This article is being discussed on ANI. Suomi Finland 2009 (talk) 20:36, 23 August 2010 (UTC)

Contradicting Origins

This article states that Au Pair originates from the French title 'Au Paire' meaning 'For the pair/couple' (it actually means 'the pair' -- we are missing 'pour'), but also says it stems from the French term 'au pair' meaning 'on a par' or 'equal to'. The first meaning seems to contradict the second, and even excepting this shouldn't the origins be merged into one sentence to prevent repetition? -- Nik Rolls (talk) 10:26, 9 October 2011 (UTC)

Regarding Norway — links are needed to improve the article.

The following is a link that might lead to improvements in the section about Norway,

(- Was open about the au pairs being supposed to participate in the host family's sex life. A chiropractor in Oslo and his samboer charged with having exploited economically disadvantaged women)"- Var åpne om at au pairene skulle delta i familiens sexliv.Oslo-kiropraktor og samboer tiltalt for å ha utnyttet fattige kvinner.".

Does anyone know of any other notable links?--85.166.141.247 (talk) 14:06, 21 November 2011 (UTC)

Published November 22, 2011: (Au pair says she was refused a key to the door to her room. — The man of the house moved in with the au pair: Even when using the toilet, she was not allowed to lock the door, explained the Philippino au pair.)"Au-pair sier hun ble nektet nøkkel til rommet sitt. — Husfaren flyttet inn hos au pairen: Selv ikke på toalettet fikk hun lov til å låse døren, forklarte den filipinske au pairen.".--85.166.141.237 (talk) 10:53, 23 November 2011 (UTC)

November 28, 2011: (The chiropractor said: We have had personal relations with those who we have employed.) "Kiropraktoren: - Vi har hatt personlige forhold til dem vi har et arbeidsforhold til"--85.166.141.237 (talk) 10:53, 29 November 2011 (UTC)

Gender

This article is very gender neutral. Do you ever get male au pairs? If so, then can someone find some stats? Squire55 (talk) 22:06, 16 December 2012 (UTC)