Wikipedia:Requests for mediation/Walabio and Jakew

Mediation involving: Walabio (talk • contribs) and Jakew (talk • contribs)

Mediator: Sam Korn (talk • contribs) sam DOT korn AT gmail DOT com

Mediation begun 20:48, 10 November 2005 (UTC)

Initial request for mediation

gliding action & foreskin — a certain user tries to pawn off people not liking phimosis as people not liking gliding action on gliding action and on foreskin, the same use claims the the præpuce gives no erogenous sensation and that the præpuce protects against heat cold, mechanical, et cetera, to such structures as the glans, meatus, frænulum, its own inner smooth and ridge mucosa, et cetera. I tried to resolve this with sources and arguments as well as RfCs, but to no avail. — — Ŭalabio‽ 00:00, 8 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]
- Iff the other party is named and declares themself willing to participate, I will take this on. Remember that mediation is about resolving disputes, not punishing others or forcing someone else's hand. [[Sam Korn]] 18:07, 8 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]
  - Jake Waskett for reasons I shall not explain, believes that all præpucii should be amputated. He continually reverts everything which makes the præpuce seem like a good thing or makes [[human genital mutilation seem like a bad thing unless he must admit it is true.. To use an example, it is like having to cite evidence that soap makes water wetter. After citing sources showing that soap makes water wetter, he usually rejects the source. He comes up with odd sources supporting his claims such as quotations about phimosis as evidence that some people do not like gliding action. Even after finding for him a quotation unambiguously supporting his claim I did his homework for him) he still insists on using his quotation. Trying to prove that the world is round and continuously reverting is just not fun. — — Ŭalabio‽ 01:14, 9 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]
- If you could also say what you hope the outcome of the mediation to be, I'd be grateful. Also, where is the dispute? [[Sam Korn]] 18:30, 8 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]
  - A good outcome would be that when presented with reliable sources, he would accept them rather than just revert. — — Ŭalabio‽ 01:14, 9 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]
- Hello Sam. Thank you for your message. I'd be happy to take part in mediation, and have no objection to you mediating.
- I note that the type of mediation has not been specified. Nor has a desired outcome been expressed that can be measured in terms that Walabio and I agree upon (as noted on talk pages, the problem so far has been the lack of conformance with reliable source policy. Hence, as far as I'm concerned, when presented with reliable sources, I do accept them.
- Walabio also misrepresents things in his request. He has raised no RfC, to my knowledge. Jakew 18:53, 10 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

Aim of mediation

Before we go about the mediation proper, I want to set out where the case is going to go.

First, I would like you both to refrain from reverting each other. This is to foster good-will between the two of you. Your preferred version may not currently be up, but see m:The Wrong Version for a humourous enterpretation of why this is necessary. This is wholly a gesture of good will. I'm not going to block you or anything like that if you don't comply (indeed, while mediating this dispute I won't block either of you), but I want to get this mediation off on a friendly foot.

Secondly, I want to set out the goals of the mediation. I want to know what articles we are mediating over. I need to know what parts of these articles we are mediating over. I need to know why we are mediating over them. I would like us to decide that here please, as soon as possible. Please don't be verbose or go into detail about what each other has been doing; just lay out what you want to mediate over.

Process of mediation

After this, I want to hear basically what has happened so far in the dispute. Again, I don't want reams upon reams of discussion, so if you can be reasonably succinct while still being fairly complete I'll be happy. Depending on what you prefer, you can either both post your statements here or we can do this by email.

After this, I shall put together a statement of the dispute, so that we can all see where we are standing. I shall then suggest a way forwards in the mediation proper.

If you have any suggestions or complaints, I am always happy to hear them. Good luck! [[Sam Korn]] 20:48, 10 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

As Walabio requested this mediation, I will wait for him to state his position before I respond. However, I would like to take opportunity to expand on my statement above and object to his misrepresentation of the facts. I specifically object to: "Jake Waskett for reasons I shall not explain, believes that all præpucii should be amputated." As can be seen clearly on my user page, this is not the case. I do not consider it helpful or respectful to misrepresent things. Jakew 21:15, 10 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

I understand you feel offended by these statements. However, I request that you follow Wikipedia's sound advice to assume good faith. Assume that Walabio got this impression of you through a common failure to communicate well. In my experience, this is the most common cause of disputes, both on and off the wiki. Indeed, the primary task of mediation is getting the two of you talking properly again. So I ask that you bear perceived insults for the time being in the hope that this will help you settle your differences and work for the good of Wikipedia. We will attempt to work through these differences later. In the mean time, please do state where you would like the mediation to focus. It won't be successful if you think about it as Walabio vs Jakew: you need to consider it as Walabio and Jakew, working together. [[Sam Korn]] 23:40, 10 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

Basically this starts with a difference of opinion:

I believe that mutilation is wrong; so therefore, human genital mutilation is wrong too. Mister Jake Waskett believes that if parents want to cut off the præpucii of their children, it is okay because he prefers penes sans præpucii. That is the background. This is the current problem:

Mister Jake Waskett has extraordinary requirements for evidence. One can bend over backwards all day trying to satisfy him, yet if one tries to include evidence that intact genitals have functions or that genital mutilation is bad, he reverts despite the sources cited and the polls on the talkpage. [1]

When ever he wants to make a point, he often uses flimsy evidence. On gliding action, another user called out Mister Jake Waskett on an uncited claim (the claim was that some people do not like gliding action, which I never doubted because one can find someone feeling any arbitrary way about anything if one looks sufficiently hard). Mister Jake Waskett did a very basic search and found a quotation which reads more like someone complaining about phimosis, the opposite of gliding action. [2] I decided to add some sanity to the debate and found for Mister Jake Waskett an unambiguous reference to someone not liking gliding action. He insisted on using both citations including his ambiguous source which sounds more like someone not liking phimosis, the opposite of gliding action. [3]

I wish that Mister Jake Waskett would have reasonable requirements of evidence from others and hold himself to the same standards as he does others.

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— Ŭalabio‽ 01:47, 11 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

Firstly, a minor correction to the background. I do consider circumcision to be perfectly acceptable, but not because of a personal preference. Other than this, the background is essentially correct. I would like to add something, though: it doesn't matter. Our individual opinions should make no difference because we are here to write an NPOV encyclopaedia. Sometimes I get the impression that you don't fully understand that goal, and that worries me. A recent example is here. While it's on a talk page, and as such doesn't directly affect the content, use of such emotive language as 'mutilators' seems inappropriate and disrespectful of other viewpoints to your own. (It's not the best example, I'm afraid; I'll try to find a better one when I have more time.)

Secondly, I see nothing wrong with requiring encyclopaedic sources. It's in our policies (WP:CITE and WP:RS). In the example you gave, foreskin, you haven't conformed with the policies. You've cited an anti-circumcision activist's personal web page (circumstitions.com), a google search, and (finally) a peer-reviewed article that only speculates that the claim might be true. The last is the most credible, but speculation is not sufficient evidence. When I explained this here and in preceding section, you ignored me.

As for the polls, as I've explained, they miss the point. Firstly, they ask about a different claim than was made in the article. I explained this and you simply denied it. Moreover, they ask the opinion of Wikipedia editors. But the whole point of WP:NOR is that our opinion doesn't matter! Even if you can get a unanimous vote from a hundred editors to say that the moon is made of blue cheese, it still doesn't belong in an article without a credible, encyclopaedic source.

Now, concerning my evidence, it is irrelevant whether you personally think that phimosis is involved. The text of that peer-reviewed article is perfectly clear: "Some likened the presence of a foreskin to wearing a condom". If it said "some likened an unretractable foreskin to..." then I would agree, but your reinterpretation has no validity. The 'unambiguous reference' you proposed was not suitable for inclusion, as circlist does not conform to WP:RS. I believe that a case could be made for relaxing the criteria for anecdotal evidence, but that should be done properly, by getting community consensus for changing policy. Jakew 12:22, 11 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

Whoa, we're all running a little far ahead here. I don't want this mediation to descend into the anarchy of each of you writing essays against the other. That is only going to be antagonising and will not help to solve the dispute. Could I ask both of you to note in the above section which pages and which sections of those pages you would like the mediation to approach. We will come to what is actually happening presently. I understand you are both impatient with each other, but I hope you will realise that the only way of resolving this dispute is to take a deep breath and try to come at the problem afresh. The mediation will have the greatest chance of success if you can both resist the urge to take side-swipes at each other, and to be angered. Take this slowly; there's no rush. Let me lead the way. Also, I think it would promote a friendly atmosphere if we all address each other plainly: Jakew as Jake, Walabio as Walabio (unless you have another name...) and me as Sam. I see no reason why this mediation cannot be successful if we all resolve to come at it calmly and in good faith.

Therefore, for the moment, can I ask you to list where you want this mediation to discuss. The matter can then progress from there. [[Sam Korn]] 17:16, 11 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

I appreciate your patience, Sam. As far as I'm concerned, I'm happy to discuss whatever Walabio feels we should. I must confess that I don't entirely understand why Walabio felt the need to request mediation, since although we frequently disagree, we seemed (to me at least) to be able to communicate. Please don't misunderstand though - I'm more than happy to take part. I'm just a bit puzzled.

Walabio's stated goal is, if I may paraphrase, to change the standards of evidence which I apply. However, I believe that to enter into mediation in good faith we cannot presume such a one-sided outcome. I'd therefore like to propose a subtly different goal, which recognises that the problem may or may not be my standards, but it certainly in the fact that Walabio feels that they are unreasonable. The goal, therefore, would be to lessen or relieve his dissatisfaction.

Sam, if I understand correctly, you seem to want to discuss certain edits to specific articles or sections thereof. Is that right? If so, that's fine with me, but I'm concerned that we may be talking at cross-purposes here, since the problems and goals raised seem to be wider and more general. That's my impression, anyway. Jakew 14:57, 12 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]