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'{{About||the magazine|Parenting (magazine)|parental care in animals|Parental investment}} {{short description|Process of raising a child}} {{Use dmy dates|date=September 2015}} [[File:Fatherandchild.png|thumb|A father holds his child]] '''Parenting''' or '''child rearing''' is the process of promoting and supporting the [[physical fitness|physical]], [[emotion]]al, [[Social change|social]], and [[intellectual development]] of a [[child]] from [[infant|infancy]] to [[adult]]hood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively for a biological relationship.<ref>{{cite book|author=Jane B. Brooks|title=The Process of Parenting: Ninth Edition|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=CZE0AAAAQBAJ|date=28 September 2012|publisher=McGraw-Hill Higher Education|isbn=978-0-07-746918-4}} For the legal definition of parenting and parenthood see: Haim Abraham, [https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2925886 A Family Is What You Make It? Legal Recognition and Regulation of Multiple Parents] (2017)</ref> The most common caretaker in parenting is the father or mother, or both, [[Parent#Biological parents and parental testing|biological parent(s)]] of the child in question, although a surrogate may be an older sibling, a step-parent, a grandparent, a [[legal guardian]], aunt, uncle or other family member, or a family friend.<ref>{{cite web | last = Bernstein | first = Robert | title = Majority of Children Live With Two Biological Parents | date =20 February 2008 |url = https://www.census.gov/Press-Release/www/releases/archives/children/011507.html | access-date =26 March 2009 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20080420053142/http://www.census.gov/Press-Release/www/releases/archives/children/011507.html |archive-date = 20 April 2008}}</ref> [[Government]]s and [[society]] may also have a role in child-rearing. In many cases, [[orphaned]] or abandoned children receive parental care from non-parent or non-blood relations. Others may be [[adoption|adopted]], raised in [[foster care]], or placed in an [[orphanage]]. Parenting skills vary, and a parent or surrogate with good parenting skills may be referred to as a ''good parent''.<ref name=HumanEnrich>{{cite web |first= Ashish |last= Johri |url= https://humanenrich.com/blog/six-steps-parents-child-success/ |title=6 Steps for Parents So Your Child is Successful |work=humanenrich.com |access-date=2 March 2014}}</ref> [[Parenting styles]] vary by historical time period, race/ethnicity, social class, preference, and other social features.<ref>{{Cite book|title=SOC 2018.|last=JON.|first=WITT|date=2017|publisher=McGraw-Hill|isbn=978-1-259-70272-3|edition=5TH|location=[S.l.]|oclc=968304061}}</ref> Additionally, research supports that parental history both in terms of attachments of varying quality as well as parental [[psychopathology]], particularly in the wake of adverse experiences, can strongly influence parental sensitivity and child outcomes. <ref>Schechter, D.S., & Willheim, E. (2009). Disturbances of attachment and parental psychopathology in early childhood. Infant and Early Childhood Mental Health Issue. Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Clinics of North America, 18(3), 665-87.</ref><ref>Grienenberger, J., Kelly, K. & Slade, A. (2005). Maternal Reflective Functioning, Mother-Infant Affective Communication and Infant Attachment: Exploring The Link Between Mental States and Observed Caregiving. Attachment and Human Development, 7, 299-311.</ref><ref>{{cite journal | last1 = Lieberman | first1 = A.F. | last2 = Padrón | first2 = E. | last3 = Van Horn | first3 = P. | last4 = Harris | first4 = W.W. | year = 2005 | title = Angels in the nursery: The intergenerational transmission of benevolent parental influences | journal = Infant Ment. Health J. | volume = 26 | issue = 6| pages = 504–20 | doi = 10.1002/imhj.20071 | pmid = 28682485 }}</ref> ==Factors that affect decisions== [[Social class]], [[wealth]], culture and [[income]] have a very strong impact on what methods of child rearing parents use.<ref>{{cite journal | doi = 10.2307/3088916 | last1 = Lareau | first1 = Annette | year = 2002 | title = Invisible Inequality: Social Class and Child Rearing in Black Families and White Families| journal = American Sociological Review | volume = 67 | issue = 5| pages = 747–76 | jstor = 3088916 }}</ref> Cultural values play a major role in how a parent raises their child. However, parenting is always evolving, as times, cultural practices, social norms, and traditions change. Studies on these factors affecting parenting decisions have shown just that. <ref>shizuka, P. (2019). Social Class, Gender, and Contemporary Parenting Standards in the United States: Evidence from a National Survey Experiment. Social Forces, 98(1), 31–58. https://doi.org/10.1093/sf/soy107/ref></ref><ref>{{cite web | title = 20th Century Evolution of American Parenting Styles | url = http://www.parentradar.com/20th-century-evolution-of-american-parenting-styles | access-date = 11 May 2015}}.</ref> In psychology, the [[parental investment]] theory suggests that basic differences between males and females in parental investment have great adaptive significance and lead to gender differences in mating propensities and preferences.<ref name="Psychology: Themes and Variations">{{cite book|last1=Weiten|first1=W.|last2=McCann|first2=D.|title=Themes and Variations|year=2007|publisher=Thomson Wadsworth|location=Nelson Education Ltd|isbn=978-0-17-647273-3|url-access=registration|url=https://archive.org/details/psychologythemes0002weit}}</ref> A family's social class plays a large role in the opportunities and resources that will be available to a child. Working-class children often grow up at a disadvantage with the schooling, communities, and level of parental attention available compared to those from the middle-class or upper-class.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://budingstar.com/blog/role-of-social-class-in-parenting/|title=Social class in parenting|website=Budingstar}}</ref> Also, lower working-class families do not get the kind of networking that the middle and upper classes do through helpful family members, friends, and community individuals or groups as well as various professionals or experts.<ref>Doob, Christopher (2013) (in English). Social Inequality and Social Stratification (1st ed. ed.). Boston: Pearson. p. 165.</ref> ==Styles== {{main|Parenting styles}} A parenting style is indicative of the overall emotional climate in the home.<ref name=Spera>*{{cite journal | last1 = Spera | first1 = C | year = 2005 | title = A review of the relationship among parenting practices, parenting styles, and adolescent school achievement | url = https://www.sfu.ca/~jcnesbit/EDUC220/ThinkPaper/Spera2005.pdf | journal = [[Educational Psychology Review]] | volume = 17 | issue = 2| pages = 125–46 | doi=10.1007/s10648-005-3950-1| citeseerx = 10.1.1.596.237 | s2cid = 11050947 }}</ref> [[developmental psychology|Developmental psychologist]] [[Diana Baumrind]] identified three main parenting styles in early [[child development]]: authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive.<ref>Baumrind, D. (1967). Child care practices anteceding three patterns of preschool behavior. Genetic Psychology Monographs, 75, 43–88.</ref><ref>Baumrind, D. (1971). Current patterns of parental authority" ''Developmental Psychology'' 4 (1, Pt. 2), 1–103.</ref><ref>{{cite journal | last1 = Baumrind | first1 = D. | year = 1978 | title = Parental disciplinary patterns and social competence in children | journal = Youth & Society | volume = 9 | issue = 3| pages = 238–76 | doi = 10.1177/0044118X7800900302 | s2cid = 140984313 }}</ref><ref>McKay M (2006). [http://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/etd/453/ Parenting practices in emerging adulthood: Development of a new measure.] Thesis, Brigham Young University. Retrieved 9 February 2016.</ref> These parenting styles were later expanded to four, to include an uninvolved style. On the one hand, these four styles involve combinations of acceptance and responsiveness, and in turn, involve demand and control.<ref name="Santrock">Santrock, J.W. (2007). ''A topical approach to life-span development, third Ed.'' New York: McGraw-Hill.</ref> Research<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://sites.google.com/site/markrubinsocialpsychresearch/social-class-differences-in-mental-health-do-parenting-style-and-friendship-play-a-role|title=Social Class Differences in Mental Health: Do Parenting Style and Friendship Play a Role?|last=Rubin|first=Mark|date=2015|website=Mark Rubin Social Psychology Research|access-date=August 29, 2017}}</ref> has found that parenting style is significantly related to a child's subsequent mental health and well-being. In particular, authoritative parenting is positively related to mental health and satisfaction with life, and authoritarian parenting is negatively related to these variables.<ref>{{cite journal | last1 = Rubin | first1 = M. | last2 = Kelly | first2 = B M. | year = 2015 | title = A cross-sectional investigation of parenting style and friendship as mediators of the relation between social class and mental health in a university community | journal = International Journal for Equity in Health | volume = 14 | issue = 87| pages = 1–11 | doi = 10.1186/s12939-015-0227-2 | pmid = 26438013 | pmc = 4595251 }}</ref> With authoritarian and permissive parenting on opposite sides of the spectrum, most conventional modern models of parenting fall somewhere in between. ;Authoritative parenting :Described by Baumrind as the "just right" style, it combines a medium level demands on the child and a medium level responsiveness from the parents. Authoritative parents rely on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment. Parents are more aware of a child's feelings and capabilities and support the development of a child's autonomy within reasonable limits. There is a give-and-take atmosphere involved in parent-child communication and both control and support are balanced. Research{{vague|date=March 2017}} shows that this style is more beneficial than the too-hard authoritarian style or the too-soft permissive style. This parenting style results in capable, successful, and happy children. When practiced without physical punishment, one gets the most positive results with least issues in today's world. These children score higher in terms of competence, mental health, and social development than those raised in permissive, authoritarian, or neglectful homes. <ref>Joseph M. V., John J. (2008). Global Academic Society Journal: Social Science Insight, Vol. 1, No. 5, pp. 16-25. ISSN 2029-0365 {{Cite web | url = http://scholararticles.net/impact-of-parenting-styles-on-child-development | title = Impact of Parenting Styles on Child Development}}</ref> ;Authoritarian parenting styles :Authoritarian parents are very rigid and strict. High demands are placed on the child, but there is little responsiveness to them. Parents who practice authoritarian-style parenting have a non-negotiable set of rules and expectations that are strictly enforced and require rigid obedience. When the rules are not followed, punishment is often used to promote and insure future obedience.<ref name="DOI_10.1177/0192513X08322933" /> There is usually no explanation of punishment except that the child is in trouble for breaking a rule.<ref name="DOI_10.1177/0192513X08322933" /> This parenting style is strongly associated with [[corporal punishment]], such as [[spanking]] and "Because I said so" is a typical response to a child's question of authority. This type of parenting is seen more often in working-class families than in the middle class{{Citation needed|date=January 2019}}. In 1983, Diana Baumrind found that children raised in an authoritarian-style home were less cheerful, more moody and more vulnerable to stress. In many cases, these children also demonstrated passive hostility. This style also has a negative impact on educational success and career path, while a firm and reassuring parenting style has a positive impact.<ref>Zahedani ZZ, Rezaee R, Yazdani Z, Bagheri S, Nabeiei P. J Adv Med Educ Prof. 2016; 4:130–4 {{Cite journal | title = The Influence of Parenting Style on Academic Achievement and Career Path| year = 2016| pmc = 4927255| author1 = ZAHED ZAHEDANI Z| author2 = REZAEE R| author3 fvfvvvvvvvvvvvvvvx ghggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh= YAZDANI Z| author4 = BAGHERI S| author5 = NABEIEI P| journal = Journal of Advances in Medical Education & Professionalism| volume = 4| issue = 3| pages = 130–134| pmid = 27382580}}</ref> ;Permissive parenting :Permissive, or indulgent, parenting is more popular in middle-class than in working-class families{{Citation needed|date=January 2019}}. In these settings, a child's freedom and autonomy are highly valued, and parents tend to rely mostly on reasoning and explanation. Parents are undemanding, so there tends to be little if any punishment or explicit rules in this style of parenting. These parents say that their children are free from external constraints and tend to be highly responsive to whatever the child wants at the time. Children of permissive parents are generally happy but sometimes show low levels of self-control and self-reliance because they lack structure at home.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.canr.msu.edu/news/permissive_parenting_style|title=permissive parenting|website=MSU.EDU}}</ref> ;Uninvolved parenting :An uninvolved or neglectful parenting style is when parents are often emotionally or physically absent.<ref name="DOI:10.1080/01494920802010140" /> They have little to no expectation of the child and regularly have no communication. They are not responsive to a child's needs and have little to no behavioral expectations. If present, they may provide what the child needs for survival with little to no engagement.<ref name="DOI:10.1080/01494920802010140" /> There is often a large gap between parents and children with this parenting style.{{vague|date=July 2018}} Children with little or no communication with their own parents tended to be victimized by other children and may themselves exhibit deviant behavior.<ref name="doi_10.1177/1077559509347012" /> Children of uninvolved parents suffer in [[social competence]], [[academic performance]], [[psychosocial development]] and problem behavior. ==Practices== [[File:Father and child.jpg|thumb|A father and son]]{{Citations broken|date=April 2020}} A parenting practice is a specific behavior that a parent uses in raising a child.<ref name="Spera" /> For example, many parents read aloud to their offspring in the hopes of supporting their linguistic and intellectual development. In cultures with strong oral traditions, such as Indigenous American communities, [[Storytelling#storytelling in indigenous cultures|storytelling]] is an important parenting practice for children.<ref>Bolin, Inge. Growing Up in a Culture of Respect: Child Rearing in Highland Peru. Austin: University of Texas Press, 2006. Project MUSE.{{page needed|date=June 2016}}</ref> Parenting practices reflect the cultural understanding of children.<ref name="Day-Look" /> Parents in individualistic countries like Germany spend more time engaged in [[face-to-face interaction]] with babies and more time talking to the baby about the baby. Parents in more communal cultures, such as West African cultures, spend more time talking to the baby about other people, and more time with the baby facing outwards, so that the baby sees what the mother sees.<ref name="Day-Look">{{cite news|url=http://www.slate.com/blogs/how_babies_work/2013/04/30/cultural_differences_in_how_you_talk_and_look_at_your_baby.html|title=Cultural differences in how you look and talk at your baby|last=Day|first=Nicholas|date=30 April 2013|work=[[Slate (magazine)|Slate]]|access-date=3 May 2013}}</ref> ===Skills=== Parenting skills assist parents in leading children into healthy adulthood, influencing their development, and maintaining their negative and positive behaviors. The cognitive potential, social skills, and behavioral functioning a child acquires during the early years are fundamentally dependent on the quality of their interactions with their parents.{{Citation needed|date=April 2020}} Canadian Council on Learning says that children benefit (avoid poor developmental outcomes) when their parents:<ref>{{Cite web |url=http://www.ccl-cca.ca/pdfs/LessonsInLearning/Dec-13-07-Parenting-styles.pdf%7B%7Bfull |title=Archived copy |access-date=14 September 2012 |archive-date=14 September 2012 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20120914112822/http://www.ccl-cca.ca/pdfs/LessonsInLearning/Dec-13-07-Parenting-styles.pdf%7B%7Bfull |url-status=live }}</ref> # Communicate truthfully about events, because authenticity from parents who explain and help their children understand what happens and how they are involved; # Maintain consistency: Parents that institute regular routines see benefits in their children's behavioral patterns; # Utilize resources available to them, reaching out into the community and building a [[It takes a village|supportive social network]]; # Take an interest in their child's educational and early developmental needs (e.g. [[Play (activity)|Play]] that enhances socialization, autonomy, cohesion, calmness and trust.); and # Keep open lines of communication about what their child is seeing, learning, and doing, and how these things are affecting them. Parenting skills are widely thought to be naturally present in parents; however, there is substantial evidence to the contrary. Those who come from a negative or vulnerable childhood environment frequently (often unintentionally) mimic their parents' behavior during interactions with their own children. Parents with inadequate understanding of developmental milestones may also demonstrate problematic parenting. Parenting practices are of particular importance during marital transitions like separation, divorce and remarriage;<ref>Patterson et al. (1992)</ref> if children fail to adequately adjust to these changes, they are at risk of negative outcomes (e.g. increased rule-breaking behavior, problems with peer relationships, and increased emotional difficulties).<ref>Chase-Lansdale, Cherlin & Kiernan, 1995; Hetherington, 1992; Zill, Morrison & Coiro, 1993; Bumpass, Sweet & Martin, 1990; Hetherington, Bridges & Insabella, 1998</ref> Research classifies competence and skills required in parenting as follows:<ref>{{cite journal |last1=Sanders |first1=Matthew R. |title=Triple P-Positive Parenting Program as a public health approach to strengthening parenting |journal=Journal of Family Psychology |volume=22 |issue=4 |pages=506–17 |year=2008 |pmid=18729665 |doi=10.1037/0893-3200.22.3.506 |url=http://espace.library.uq.edu.au/view/UQ%3A176221/UQ176221.pdf |citeseerx=10.1.1.1012.8778 }}</ref> * Parent-child relationship skills: quality time spent, positive communications and delighted show of affection. * Encouraging desirable behavior: praise and encouragement, nonverbal attention, facilitating engaging activities. * Teaching skills and behaviors: being a good example, [[Learning#Incidental learning|incidental teaching]], benevolent communication of the skill with role playing and other methods, communicating logical incentives and consequences. * Managing misbehavior: establishing firm ground rules and limits, directing discussion, providing clear and calm instructions, communicating and enforcing appropriate consequences, using restrictive tactics like quiet time and time out with an authoritative stance rather than an authoritarian one. * Anticipating and planning: advanced planning and preparation for readying the child for challenges, finding out engaging and age-appropriate developmental activities, preparing token economy for self-management practice with guidance, holding follow-up discussions, identifying possible negative developmental trajectories. * Self-regulation skills: monitoring behaviors (own and children's),<ref>Common Sense Parenting, Burke, 1997, p. 83</ref> setting developmentally appropriate goals, evaluating strengths and weaknesses and setting practice tasks, monitoring and preventing internalizing and externalizing behaviors. * Mood and coping skills: reframing and discouraging unhelpful thoughts (diversions, goal orientation and [[mindfulness]]), stress and tension management (own and children's), developing personal coping statements and plans for high-risk situations, building mutual respect and consideration between members of the family through collaborative activities and rituals. * Partner support skills: improving personal communication, giving and receiving constructive feedback and support, avoiding [[triangulation (psychology)|negative]] family interaction styles, supporting and finding [[Hope#In psychology|hope]] in problems for adaptation, leading collaborative problem solving, promoting relationship happiness and cordiality. Consistency is considered the “backbone” of positive parenting skills and “overprotection” the weakness.<ref>Better Home Discipline, Cutts, 1952, p. 7</ref> === Parent training === Parent psycho-social health can have a significant impact on the parent-child relationship. Group-based [[Parent education program|parent training and education programs]] have proven to be effective at improving short-term psycho-social well-being for parents.<ref>{{Cite journal|last1=Barlow|first1=Jane|last2=Smailagic|first2=Nadja|last3=Huband|first3=Nick|last4=Roloff|first4=Verena|last5=Bennett|first5=Cathy|date=2014-05-17|title=Group-based parent training programmes for improving parental psychosocial health|journal=The Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews|issue=5|pages=CD002020|doi=10.1002/14651858.CD002020.pub4|issn=1469-493X|pmid=24838729}}</ref> ===Cultural values=== Parents around the world want what they believe is best for their children. However, parents in different cultures have different ideas of what is best.<ref name=Day /> For example, parents in [[hunter–gatherer]] societies or those who survive through [[subsistence agriculture]] are likely to promote practical survival skills from a young age. Many such cultures begin teaching children to use sharp tools, including knives, before their first birthdays.<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.slate.com/blogs/how_babies_work/2013/04/09/bad_parenting_ideas_that_are_actually_good_for_some_babies.html|title=Give Your Baby a Machete|last=Day|first=Nicholas|date=9 April 2013|work=[[Slate (magazine)|Slate]]|access-date=19 April 2013}}</ref> In some Indigenous American communities, [[Child work in indigenous American cultures|child work]] provides children the opportunity to absorb cultural values of collaborative participation and [[prosocial behavior]] through [[Observational learning#Indigenous communities of the Americas|observation]] and activity alongside adults.<ref>{{cite book|last=Bolin|first=Inge|title=Growing Up in a Culture of Respect: Child Rearing in Highland Peru|url=https://archive.org/details/growingupculture00boli|url-access=limited|year=2006|publisher=University of Texas Press|isbn=978-0-292-71298-0|pages=[https://archive.org/details/growingupculture00boli/page/n81 63]–67}}</ref> These communities value respect, participation, and non-interference, the Cherokee principle of respecting autonomy by withholding unsolicited advice.<ref>Robert K. Thomas. 1958. "Cherokee Values and World View" Unpublished MS, University of North Carolina Available at: http://works.bepress.com/robert_thomas/40</ref> Indigenous American parents also try to encourage curiosity in their children via a permissive parenting style that enables the child to explore and [[observational learning|learn through observation]] of the world.<ref name="muse.jhu.edu">Bolin, Inge. Growing Up in a Culture of Respect: Child Rearing in Highland Peru. Austin: University of Texas Press, 2006. Project MUSE. Web. 13 May. 2014. <http://muse.jhu.edu/>.{{page needed|date=June 2016}}</ref> Differences in cultural values cause parents to interpret the same behaviors in different ways.<ref name=Day /> For instance, European American prize intellectual acuity, especially in a narrow "book learning" sense, and believe that asking questions is a sign of intelligence. Italian parents value social and emotional competence, and believe that inquisitiveness demonstrates good interpersonal skills.<ref name="Day" /> Dutch parents, however, value independence, long attention spans, and predictability; in their eyes asking questions is a negative behavior, signifying a lack of independence.<ref name="Day" /> Even so, parents around the world share certain pro-social behavioral goals for their children. Hispanic parents value respect and emphasize putting family above the individual. Parents in East Asia prize order in the household above all else. In some cases, this gives rise to high levels of psychological control and even manipulation on the part of the head of household.<ref>{{Cite journal|last=Doan|first=Stacey N.|date=May 2017|title=Consequences of 'Tiger' Parenting: A Cross-Cultural Study of Maternal Psychological Control and Children's Cortisol Stress Response.|journal=Developmental Science|volume= 20|issue=3|pages=10|doi=10.1111/desc.12404|pmid=27146549|hdl=2027.42/136743|hdl-access=free}}</ref> The [[Kipsigis people]] of Kenya value children who are not only smart, but who wield that intelligence in a responsible and helpful way—a behavior they call ''ng/om''.<ref name="Day">{{cite news |url=http://www.slate.com/blogs/how_babies_work/2013/04/10/parental_ethnotheories_and_how_parents_in_america_differ_from_parents_everywhere.html |title=Parental ethnotheories and how parents in America differ from parents everywhere else. |last=Day|first=Nicholas |date=10 April 2013 |work=[[Slate (magazine)|Slate]] |access-date=19 April 2013}}</ref> Other cultures, such as Sweden and Spain, value sociable and happiness as well.<ref>{{cite news |url=http://www.slate.com/blogs/how_babies_work/2013/04/10/parental_ethnotheories_and_how_parents_in_america_differ_from_parents_everywhere.html |title=Parental ethnotheories and how parents in America differ from parents everywhere else. |last=Day|first=Nicholas |date=10 April 2013 |work=[[Slate (magazine)|Slate]] |access-date=19 April 2013}} {{verify source |date=September 2019 |reason=This ref was deleted Special:Diff/872213594 by a bug in VisualEditor and later restored by a bot from the original cite located at Special:Permalink/872209258 cite #35 - verify the cite is accurate and delete this template. [[User:GreenC bot/Job 18]]}}</ref> ====Indigenous American cultures==== [[File:Baby got Back.jpg|thumb|Baby on back in Lima, Peru]] It is common for parents in many [[indigenous peoples of the americas|Indigenous American communities]] to use different tools in parenting such as storytelling —like myths— ''consejos'' (Spanish for "advice"), educational teasing, nonverbal communication, and observational learning to teach their children important values and life lessons. [[Storytelling#Storytelling in indigenous cultures|Storytelling]] is a way for Indigenous American children to learn about their identity, community, and cultural history. Indigenous myths and folklore often personify animals and objects, reaffirming the belief that everything possesses a soul and deserves respect. These stories also help preserve language and are used to reflect certain values or cultural histories.<ref>Archibald, Jo-Ann, (2008). Indigenous Storywork: Educating The Heart, Mind, Body and Spirit. Vancouver, British Columbia: The University of British Columbia Press.{{page needed|date=June 2016}}</ref> The ''consejo'' is a [[Narrative#In cultural storytelling|narrative]] form of advice-giving. Rather than directly telling the child what to do in a particular situation, the parent might instead tell a story about a similar situation. The main character in the story is intended to help the child see what the implications of their decision may be, without directly making the decision for them. This teaches the child to be decisive and independent, while still providing some guidance.<ref>{{cite journal |last1=Delgado-Gaitan |first1=Concha |title=Consejos: The Power of Cultural Narratives |journal=Anthropology & Education Quarterly |volume=25 |issue=3 |year=1994 |pages=298–316 |jstor=3195848 |doi=10.1525/aeq.1994.25.3.04x0146p}}</ref> The playful form of [[Teasing#Teasing in Indigenous American Communities|teasing]] is a parenting method used in some Indigenous American communities to keep children out of danger and guide their behavior. This parenting strategy utilizes stories, fabrications, or empty threats to guide children in making safe, intelligent decisions. For example, a parent may tell a child that there is a monster that jumps on children's backs if they walk alone at night. This explanation can help keep the child safe because instilling that fear creates greater awareness and lessens the likelihood that they will wander alone into trouble.<ref>Brown, P. (2002). Everyone has to lie in Tzeltal. (pp. 241–75) Lawrence Erlbaum Associates Publishers, Mahwah, NJ.</ref> In Navajo families, a child's development is partly focused on the importance of "respect" for all things. "Respect" consists of recognizing the significance of one's relationship with other things and people in the world. Children largely learn about this concept via [[Nonverbal communication#Children's Learning in Indigenous American Communities|nonverbal communication]] between parents and other family members.<ref name="Source 1996">Source: Chisholm, J.S. (1996). Learning "respect for everything": Navajo images of development. Images of childhood, 167–183.</ref> For example, children are initiated at an early age into the practice of an early morning run under any weather conditions. On this run, the community uses humor and laughter with each other, without directly including the child—who may not wish to get up early and run—to encourage the child to participate and become an active member of the community.<ref name="Source 1996" /> Parents also promote participation in the morning runs by placing their child in the snow and having them stay longer if they protest.<ref name="Source 1996" />[[File:Indians of Santa Clara Pueblo, New Mexico, making pottery, 1916 - NARA - 519165.jpg|thumb|Indians of Santa Clara Pueblo, New Mexico, making pottery, 1916]] Indigenous American parents often [[Child integration|incorporate children]] into everyday life, including adult activities, allowing the child to [[Observational learning#Indigenous communities of the Americas|learn through observation]]. This practice is known as LOPI, [[Learning by Observing and Pitching In]], where children are integrated into all types of mature daily activities and encouraged to observe and contribute in the community. This inclusion as a parenting tool promotes both community participation and learning.<ref>{{cite journal|last1=Paradise|first1=Ruth|last2=Rogoff|first2=Barbara|title=Side by Side: Learning by Observing and Pitching In|journal=Journal of the Society of Psychological Anthropology|pages=102–37}}</ref> One notable example appears in some Mayan communities: young girls are not permitted around the hearth for an extended period of time, since corn is sacred. Although this is an exception to their cultural preference for incorporating children into activities, including cooking, it is a strong example of observational learning. Mayan girls can only watch their mothers making tortillas for a few minutes at a time, but the sacredness of the activity captures their interest. They will then go and practice the movements their mother used on other objects, such as kneading thin pieces of plastic like a tortilla. From this practice, when a girl comes of age, she is able to sit down and make tortillas without having ever received any explicit verbal instruction.<ref>{{cite book|last1=Gaskins|first1=Suzanne|last2=Paradise|first2=Ruth|editor1-last=Lancy|editor1-first=David|editor2-last=Bock|editor2-first=John|editor3-last=Gaskins|editor3-first=Suzanne|title=The Anthropology of Learning in Childhood|date=2010|publisher=AltaMira Press|location=United Kingdom|chapter=Learning Through Observation in Daily Life}}</ref> ===== Immigrants in the United States: Ethnic-racial socialization ===== Due to the increasing racial and ethnic diversity in the United States, ethnic-racial socialization research has been gained attention.<ref name=":1">{{Cite journal|last1=Wang|first1=Ming-Te|last2=Henry|first2=Daphne A.|last3=Smith|first3=Leann V.|last4=Huguley|first4=James P.|last5=Guo|first5=Jiesi|date=January 2020|title=Parental ethnic-racial socialization practices and children of color's psychosocial and behavioral adjustment: A systematic review and meta-analysis.|journal=American Psychologist|language=en|volume=75|issue=1|pages=1–22|doi=10.1037/amp0000464|pmid=31058521|issn=1935-990X}}</ref> Parental ethnic-racial socialization is a way of passing down cultural resources to support children of color's psychosocial wellness.<ref name=":1" /> The goals of ethnic-racial socialization are: to pass on a positive view of one's ethnic group and to help children cope with racism.<ref name=":1" /> Through a meta-analysis of published research on ethnic-racial socialization, ethnic-racial socialization positively affects psychosocial well-being.<ref name=":1" /> This meta-analytic review focuses on research relevant to four indicators of psychosocial skills and how they are influenced by developmental stage, race and ethnicity, research designs, and the differences between parent and child self-reports.<ref name=":1" /> The dimensions of ethnic-racial socialization that are considered when looking for correlations with psychosocial skills are: cultural socialization, preparation for bias, promotion of mistrust and egalitarianism.<ref name=":1" /> Ethnic-racial socialization dimensions are defined as follows: cultural socialization is the process of passing down cultural customs, preparation for bias ranges from positive or negative reactions to racism and discrimination, promotion of mistrust conditions synergy when dealing with other races and egalitarianism puts similarities between races first.<ref name=":1" /> Psychosocial competencies are defined as follows: self-perceptions involve perceived beliefs of academic and social capabilities, interpersonal relationships deal with the quality of relationships, externalizing behaviors deal with observable troublesome behavior and internalizing behavior deals with emotional intelligence and regulation.<ref name=":1" /> The multiple ways that these domains and competencies interact have shown small correlations between ethnic-racial socialization and psychosocial wellness, but this parenting practice remains in need of further research.<ref name=":1" /> This meta-analysis showed that developmental stages affect how ethnic-racial socialization was perceived by children.<ref name=":1" /> Cultural socialization practices appears to affect children similarly across developmental stages with the exception of preparation for bias and promotion of mistrust which are encouraged for older aged children.<ref>{{Cite journal|last1=Lee|first1=Richard M.|last2=Grotevant|first2=Harold D.|last3=Hellerstedt|first3=Wendy L.|last4=Gunnar|first4=Megan R.|date=December 2006|title=Cultural socialization in families with internationally adopted children.|journal=Journal of Family Psychology|volume=20|issue=4|pages=571–580|doi=10.1037/0893-3200.20.4.571|pmid=17176191|issn=1939-1293|pmc=2398726}}</ref><ref>{{Cite journal|last1=McHale|first1=Susan M.|last2=Crouter|first2=Ann C.|last3=Kim|first3=Ji-Yeon|last4=Burton|first4=Linda M.|last5=Davis|first5=Kelly D.|last6=Dotterer|first6=Aryn M.|last7=Swanson|first7=Dena P.|date=September 2006|title=Mothers' and Fathers' Racial Socialization in African American Families: Implications for Youth|journal=Child Development|volume=77|issue=5|pages=1387–1402|doi=10.1111/j.1467-8624.2006.00942.x|pmid=16999806|issn=0009-3920|hdl=2027.42/97223|hdl-access=free}}</ref><ref name=":2">{{Cite journal|last1=Bannon|first1=William M.|last2=McKay|first2=Mary M.|last3=Chacko|first3=Anil|last4=Rodriguez|first4=James A.|last5=Cavaleri|first5=Mary|date=January 2009|title=Cultural Pride Reinforcement as a Dimension of Racial Socialization Protective of Urban African American Child Anxiety|journal=Families in Society: The Journal of Contemporary Social Services|volume=90|issue=1|pages=79–86|doi=10.1606/1044-3894.3848|pmid=20046919|pmc=2749692|issn=1044-3894}}</ref> Existing research shows ethnic-racial socialization serves African Americans positively against discrimination.<ref name=":2" /> Cross-sectional studies were predicted to have greater effect sizes because correlations are inflated in these kind of studies.<ref>{{Cite journal|last1=Huguley|first1=James P.|last2=Wang|first2=Ming-Te|last3=Vasquez|first3=Ariana C.|last4=Guo|first4=Jiesi|date=May 2019|title=Parental ethnic–racial socialization practices and the construction of children of color's ethnic–racial identity: A research synthesis and meta-analysis.|journal=Psychological Bulletin|volume=145|issue=5|pages=437–458|doi=10.1037/bul0000187|pmid=30896188|s2cid=84845230|issn=1939-1455|url=http://d-scholarship.pitt.edu/36219/1/ERS%20and%20Psychosocial%20Adjustment_04022019_InpressinAmerican%20Psychologist.pdf}}</ref><ref>{{Cite journal|last1=Priest|first1=Naomi|last2=Walton|first2=Jessica|last3=White|first3=Fiona|last4=Kowal|first4=Emma|last5=Baker|first5=Alison|last6=Paradies|first6=Yin|date=November 2014|title=Understanding the complexities of ethnic-racial socialization processes for both minority and majority groups: A 30-year systematic review|journal=International Journal of Intercultural Relations|volume=43|pages=139–155|doi=10.1016/j.ijintrel.2014.08.003|issn=0147-1767}}</ref><ref name=":3">{{Cite journal|last=Yasui|first=Miwa|date=September 2015|title=A review of the empirical assessment of processes in ethnic–racial socialization: Examining methodological advances and future areas of development|journal=Developmental Review|volume=37|pages=1–40|doi=10.1016/j.dr.2015.03.001|issn=0273-2297}}</ref> Parental reports of the influence of ethnic-racial socialization are influenced by “intentions,” so child reports tend to be more accurate.<ref name=":3" /> Amongst other conclusions derived from this meta-analysis, cultural socialization and self-perceptions had a small positive correlation, cultural socialization and promotion of mistrust had a small negative correlation and interpersonal relationships had a positive relationship with cultural socialization and preparation for bias.<ref name=":1" /> In regard to developmental stages, ethnic-racial socialization had a small but positive correlation with self-perceptions during childhood and early adolescence.<ref name=":1" /> Based on study designs, there were no significant differences, meaning that cross-sectional studies and longitudinal studies both showed small positive correlations between ethnic-racial socialization and self-perceptions.<ref name=":1" /> Reporter differences between parents and children showed positive correlations between ethnic-racial socialization when associated with internalizing behavior and interpersonal relationships.<ref name=":1" /> These two correlations showed a greater effect size with child reports compared to parent reports.<ref name=":1" /> The meta-analysis on previous research shows only correlations, so there is a need for experimental studies that can show causation amongst the different domains and dimensions.<ref name=":1" /> Behavior of children and adaptation to this behavior may indicate a bidirectional effect which can also be addressed by an experimental study.<ref name=":1" /> There is evidence to show that ethnic-racial socialization can help children of color obtain social-emotional skills that can help them navigate through racism and discrimination, but further research needs to be done to increase the generalizability of existing research.<ref name=":1" /> ==Across the lifespan== ===Pre-pregnancy=== {{Main|Family planning|Prenatal care}} [[Family planning]] is the decision-making process surrounding whether and when to become parents, including planning, preparing, and gathering resources. Prospective parents may assess (among other matters) whether they have access to sufficient financial resources, whether their family situation is stable, and whether they want to undertake the responsibility of raising a child. Worldwide, about 40% of all pregnancies are not planned, and more than 30 million babies are born each year as a result of unplanned pregnancies.<ref>{{Cite journal|last1=Sedgh|first1=Gilda|last2=Singh|first2=Susheela|last3=Hussain|first3=Rubina|date=2014-09-10|title=Intended and Unintended Pregnancies Worldwide in 2012 and Recent Trends|journal=Studies in Family Planning|volume=45|issue=3|pages=301–14|doi=10.1111/j.1728-4465.2014.00393.x|issn=0039-3665|pmc=4727534|pmid=25207494}}</ref> [[Reproductive health]] and [[Pre-conception counseling|preconception care]] affect pregnancy, reproductive success, and the physical and mental health of both mother and child. A woman who is [[underweight]], whether due to poverty, [[eating disorder]]s, or illness, is less likely to have a healthy pregnancy and give birth to a healthy baby than a woman who is healthy. Similarly, a woman who is obese has higher risks of difficulties, including [[gestational diabetes]].<ref name=":0">{{cite journal|last1=Dean|first1=Sohni V.|last2=Lassi|first2=Zohra S.|last3=Imam|first3=Ayesha M.|last4=Bhutta|first4=Zulfiqar A.|date=2014-09-26|title=Preconception care: nutritional risks and interventions|journal=Reproductive Health|volume=11 Suppl 3|page=S3|doi=10.1186/1742-4755-11-S3-S3|pmc=4196560|pmid=25415364}}</ref> Other health problems, such as [[infection]]s and [[iron-deficiency anemia]], can be detected and corrected before conception. ===Pregnancy and prenatal parenting=== {{Main|Pregnancy}} [[File:Pregnant hot tub.jpg|alt=A pregnant woman floats in the corner of a swimming pool|thumb|Pregnant women and their unborn children benefit from moderate exercise, sufficient sleep, and high-quality nutrition.]] During [[pregnancy]], the unborn child is affected by many decisions made by the parents, particularly choices linked to their [[lifestyle (sociology)|lifestyle]]. The health, activity level and nutrition available to the mother can affect the child's development before [[Childbirth|birth]].<ref name=":0" /> Some mothers, especially in relatively wealthy countries, eat too much and spend [[Sedentary lifestyle|too much time resting]]. Other mothers, especially if they are poor or [[Violence against women|abused]], may be [[overwork]]ed and may not be able to eat enough, or not able to afford healthful foods with sufficient iron, vitamins, and protein, for the unborn child to develop properly. ===Newborns and infants=== {{Main|Infant}} [[File:Blake Infant Joy Copy AA 25.jpg|thumb|200px|A mother wishes joy towards her child in [[William Blake]]'s poem "[[Infant Joy]]". This copy, Copy AA, was printed and painted in 1826, is currently held by the [[Fitzwilliam Museum]].<ref>{{cite web| url = http://www.blakearchive.org/exist/blake/archive/object.xq?objectid=songsie.aa.illbk.25&java=no| title = Songs of Innocence and of Experience, copy AA, object 25 (Bentley 25, Erdman 25, Keynes 25) "Infant Joy" |editor=Morris Eaves |editor2=Robert N. Essick |editor3=Joseph Viscomi | publisher = [[William Blake Archive]]| access-date = 16 January 2014}}</ref> ]] [[Newborn]] parenting, is where the responsibilities of parenthood begins. A newborn's basic needs are food, sleep, comfort and cleaning which the parent provides. An infant's only form of communication is crying, and attentive parents will begin to recognize different types of [[crying]] which represent different needs such as hunger, discomfort, boredom, or loneliness. Newborns and young infants require feedings every few hours which is disruptive to adult [[Sleep cycle#Stages of sleep|sleep cycles]]. They respond enthusiastically to soft stroking, cuddling and caressing. Gentle rocking back and forth often calms a crying infant, as do massages and warm baths. Newborns may comfort themselves by sucking their thumb or a [[pacifier]]. The need to suckle is instinctive and allows newborns to feed. [[Breastfeeding]] is the recommended method of feeding by all major infant health organizations.<ref name="AAP_Policy">{{cite journal | title=Breastfeeding and the Use of Human Milk | author=Gartner LM |author2=Morton J |author3=Lawrence RA |author4=Naylor AJ |author5=O'Hare D |author6=Schanler RJ |author7=Eidelman AI | journal=Pediatrics | volume = 115 | issue=2 |date=February 2005 | pages=496–506 | doi=10.1542/peds.2004-2491 | pmid=15687461|display-authors=etal|doi-access=free }}</ref> If breastfeeding is not possible or desired, bottle feeding is a common alternative. Other alternatives include feeding breastmilk or formula with a cup, spoon, feeding syringe, or nursing supplementer. The forming of [[attachment in children|attachments]] is considered to be the foundation of the infant's capacity to form and conduct relationships throughout life. Attachment is not the same as love or affection, although they often go together. Attachments develop immediately and a lack of attachment or a seriously disrupted attachment can potentially do serious damage to a child's health and well-being. Physically, one may not see symptoms or indications of a disorder but the child may be emotionally affected. Studies show that children with secure attachment have the ability to form successful relationships, express themselves on an interpersonal basis and have higher self-esteem {{Citation needed|date=May 2012}}. Conversely children who have caregivers who are neglectful or emotionally unavailable can exhibit behavioral problems such as post-traumatic stress disorder or [[oppositional defiant disorder]] <ref>SS, Hamilton. "Result Filters." National Center for Biotechnology Information. U.S. National Library of Medicine, 1 October 2008. Web. 13 March 2013.</ref> Oppositional-defiant disorder is a pattern of disobedient and defiant behavior toward authority figures. ===Toddlers=== {{Main|Toddler}} [[File:Maud Humphrey - Maternal cares.png|thumb|A painting by Maud Humphrey of a child at a small table with dolls and toy china]] Toddlers are small children range between 12 and 36 months old who are much more active than infants and become challenged with learning how to do simple tasks by themselves. At this stage, parents are heavily involved in showing the small child how to do things rather than just doing things for them; it is usual for the [[toddler]] to mimic the parents. Toddlers need help to build their vocabulary, increase their communication skills, and manage their emotions. Toddlers will also begin to understand social etiquette such as being polite and taking turns.<ref>https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/manners/teaching-kids-to-mind-their-manners/</ref>[[File:Parenting.JPG|thumb|A father and daughter in [[Trivandrum]], [[India]]|left]]Toddlers are very curious about the world around them and eager to explore it. They seek greater independence and responsibility and may become frustrated when things do not go the way they want or expect. [[Tantrum]]s begin at this stage, which is sometimes referred to as the 'Terrible Twos'.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://www.safekids.co.uk/terrible-twos-explained.html |title=The Terrible Twos Explained – Safe Kids (UK) |publisher=Safe Kids |date=10 May 2011 |access-date=2 May 2012}}</ref> Tantrums are often caused by the child's frustration over the particular situation, sometimes simply not being able to communicate properly. Parents of toddlers are expected to help guide and teach the child, establish basic routines (such as washing hands before meals or brushing teeth before bed), and increase the child's responsibilities. It is also normal for toddlers to be frequently frustrated. It is an essential step to their development. They will learn through experience; trial and error. This means that they need to experience being frustrated when something does not work for them, in order to move on to the next stage. When the toddler is frustrated, they will often behave badly with actions like screaming, hitting or biting. Parents need to be careful when reacting to such behaviors, giving threats or punishments is not helpful and will only make the situation worse.<ref>{{cite web|last=Pitman|first=Teresa|title=Toddler Frustration|url=http://www.todaysparent.com/toddler/toddler-behaviour/toddler-frustration|publisher=Todaysparent|access-date=3 December 2011}}</ref> Research groups led by [[Daniel Schechter]], Alytia Levendosky, and others have shown that parents with histories of maltreatment and violence exposure often have difficulty helping their toddlers and preschool-age children with these very same emotionally dysregulated behaviors, which can remind traumatized parents of their adverse experiences and associated mental states.<ref>{{cite journal |last1=Schechter |first1=Daniel S. |last2=Willheim |first2=Erica |last3=Hinojosa |first3=Claudia |last4=Scholfield-Kleinman |first4=Kimberly |last5=Turner |first5=J. Blake |last6=McCaw |first6=Jaime |last7=Zeanah |first7=Charles H. |last8=Myers |first8=Michael M. |title=Subjective and Objective Measures of Parent-Child Relationship Dysfunction, Child Separation Distress, and Joint Attention |journal=Psychiatry |volume=73 |issue=2 |pages=130–44 |year=2010 |pmid=20557225 |doi=10.1521/psyc.2010.73.2.130 |s2cid=5132495 }}</ref><ref>{{cite journal |last1=Schechter |first1=Daniel S. |last2=Zygmunt |first2=Annette |last3=Coates |first3=Susan W. |last4=Davies |first4=Mark |last5=Trabka |first5=Kimberly A. |last6=McCaw |first6=Jaime |last7=Kolodji |first7=Ann |last8=Robinson |first8=Joann L. |title=Caregiver traumatization adversely impacts young children's mental representations on the MacArthur Story Stem Battery |journal=Attachment & Human Development |volume=9 |issue=3 |pages=187–205 |year=2007 |pmid=18007959 |pmc=2078523 |doi=10.1080/14616730701453762 }}</ref><ref>{{cite journal |last1=Levendosky |first1=Alytia A. |last2=Leahy |first2=Kerry L. |last3=Bogat |first3=G. Anne |last4=Davidson |first4=William S. |last5=von Eye |first5=Alexander |title=Domestic violence, maternal parenting, maternal mental health, and infant externalizing behavior |journal=Journal of Family Psychology |volume=20 |issue=4 |pages=544–52 |year=2006 |pmid=17176188 |doi=10.1037/0893-3200.20.4.544 }}</ref> Regarding [[Sex differences in humans#Sociology|gender differences]] in parenting, data from the US in 2014 states that, on an average day, among adults living in households with children under age 6, women spent 1.0 hour providing physical care (such as bathing or feeding a child) to household children. By contrast, men spent 23 minutes providing physical care.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://www.bls.gov/news.release/atus.nr0.htm|title=American Time Use Survey|date=24 June 2015|publisher=[[Bureau of Labor Statistics]]}}</ref> ===Child=== {{Main|Child|Early childhood|Childhood|Preadolescence}} [[File:Miryam Sidrensky running with her daughter.jpg|thumb|[[Sprint (running)|Sprinter]] [[Miriam Siderenski]] running alongside her daughter. ]] Yuounger children are becoming more independent and are beginning to build friendships. They are able to reason and can make their own decisions given hypothetical situations. Young children demand constant attention, but gradually learn how to deal with boredom and be able to play independently. They also enjoy helping and feeling useful and capable. Parents may assist their child by encouraging social interactions and modeling proper social behaviors. A large part of learning in the early years comes from being involved in activities and household duties. Parents who observe their children in play or join with them in child-driven play have the opportunity to glimpse into their children's world, learn to communicate more effectively with their children and are given another setting to offer gentle, nurturing guidance.<ref name=AAP>{{cite web|title=The Importance of Play in Promoting Healthy Child Development and Maintaining Strong Parent-Child Bonds |url=http://www.wcss.wa.edu.au/pdf/importanceoftheplay_AAP.pdf |author=Kenneth R. Ginsburg |publisher=American Academy of Pediatrics |url-status=dead |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20091011151153/http://www.wcss.wa.edu.au/pdf/importanceoftheplay_AAP.pdf |archive-date=11 October 2009 }}</ref> Parents are also teaching their children health, hygiene, and eating habits through instruction and by example. Parents are expected to make decisions about their child's [[education]]. Parenting styles in this area diverge greatly at this stage with some parents becoming heavily involved in arranging organized activities and early learning programs. Other parents choose to let the child develop with few organized activities. Children begin to learn responsibility, and consequences of their actions, with parental assistance. Some parents provide a small allowance that increases with age to help teach children the value of money and how to be responsible with it. Parents who are consistent and fair with their [[child discipline|discipline]], who openly communicate and offer explanations to their children, and who do not neglect the needs of their children in some way often find they have fewer problems with their children as they mature. When child conduct problems are encountered, behavioral and [[Cognitive behavioral therapy|cognitive-behavioral]] group-based parenting interventions have been demonstrated to be effective at improving child conduct, parenting skills and parental mental health.<ref>{{Cite journal|last1=M|first1=Furlong|last2=S|first2=McGilloway|last3=T|first3=Bywater|last4=J|first4=Hutchings|last5=Sm|first5=Smith|last6=M|first6=Donnelly|date=2012-02-15|title=Behavioural and Cognitive-Behavioural Group-Based Parenting Programmes for Early-Onset Conduct Problems in Children Aged 3 to 12 Years|journal=The Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews|issue=2|pages=CD008225|doi=10.1002/14651858.CD008225.pub2|language=en|pmid=22336837}}</ref> ===Adolescents=== {{More citations needed|date=May 2018}} {{Main|Adolescence}} Parents often feel isolated and alone in parenting [[Adolescence|adolescents]].<ref>[https://www.techspurs.com/sharenting/ Sharenting & Oversharenting] {{webarchive|url=https://web.archive.org/web/20160816042806/https://www.techspurs.com/sharenting/ |date=16 August 2016 }}</ref> Adolescence can be a time of high [[risk]] for children, where new-found freedoms can result in decisions that drastically open up or close off life opportunities. There are also large changes occurring in the [https://www.talkingtoteens.com/about-your-teenager/ brain during adolescence]; the emotional center of the brain is now fully developed but the rational frontal cortex hasn't matured yet to keep all of those emotions in check.<ref>{{Cite news|url=https://www.talkingtoteens.com/about-your-teenager/|title=WHAT WAS MY TEENAGER THINKING?|date=2017-09-26|work=Talking to Teens|access-date=2018-02-12|language=en-US}}</ref> Adolescents tend to increase the amount of time they spend with peers of the opposite gender; however, they still maintain the amount of time they spend with those of the same gender—and they do this by decreasing the amount of time they spend with their parents. Although adolescents look to [[peer group|peers]] and adults outside the family for guidance and models for how to behave, parents remain influential in their development. Studies show that parents have a significant impact, for instance, on how much teens drink.<ref>{{Cite news|url=https://www.talkingtoteens.com/underage-drinking/|title=7 Things Most Parents Get Wrong About Teen Drinking|date=2017-07-07|work=Talking to Teens|access-date=2018-02-12|language=en-US}}</ref> During adolescence children are beginning to form their [[identity (social science)|identity]] and are testing and developing the interpersonal and occupational roles that they will assume as adults. Therefore, it is important that parents treat them as young adults. Parental issues at this stage of parenting include dealing with "[[rebellious]]" [[teenager]]s who consistently push the limits. In order to prevent these issues, it is important for the parents to build a trusting relationship with their children. This can be achieved by planning and taking part in fun activities together, keeping promises made to the children, spending time with them, not reminding kids about their past mistakes and listening to and talking to them. When a trusting relationship is built up, adolescents are more likely to approach their parents for help when faced with negative peer pressure. Helping the children build a strong foundation will help them resist negative peer pressure. ===Adults=== Parenting does not usually end when a child turns 18. Support may be needed in a child's life well beyond the adolescent years and continues into middle and later adulthood. Parenting can be a lifelong process. Parents may provide financial support to their adult children, which can also include providing an inheritance after death. The life perspective and wisdom given by a parent can benefit their adult children in their own lives. Becoming a [[grandparent]] is another milestone and has many similarities with parenting. Roles can be reversed in some ways when adult children become [[caregivers]] to their elderly parents. ==Assistance== {{Main|Child care}} Parents may receive assistance with caring for their children through child care programs. ==Childbearing and happiness== Data from the [[British Household Panel Survey]] and the German [[Socio-Economic Panel]] suggests that having up to two children increases happiness in the years around the birth, and mostly so for those who have postponed childbearing. However, having a third child does not increase happiness.<ref>{{cite journal|journal=Demography|year=2014|volume=51|issue=5|pages=1843–66|title=Happiness: Before and After the Kids|author1=Mikko Myrskylä |author2=Rachel Margolis |doi=10.1007/s13524-014-0321-x|pmid=25143019|citeseerx=10.1.1.454.2051|s2cid=8127506}}</ref> == See also == {{wikiquote}} {{columns-list|colwidth=30em| * [[Child custody]] * [[Childlessness]] * [[Developmental psychology]] * [[Empty nest syndrome]] * [[Family law]] * [[LGBT parenting]] * [[Motherhood constellation]] * [[Outline of children]] * ''[[Parent Rescue]]'' (documentary series) * [[Parental alienation]] * [[Parental supervision]] * [[Parenting coordinator]] * [[Paternal age effect]] * [[Paternal care]] * [[Pedagogy]] * [[Shared parenting]] * [[Sharenting]] }} ==References== {{reflist|2|refs= <ref name="DOI:10.1080/01494920802010140">{{cite journal|last=Brown|first=Lola|author2=Iyengar, Shrinidhi|title=Parenting Styles: The Impact on Student Achievement|journal=Marriage & Family Review|year=2008|volume=43|issue=1–2|pages=14–38|doi=10.1080/01494920802010140|s2cid=144129154}}</ref> <!-- unused <ref name=10.1111/j.1475-682X.2010.00351.x>{{cite journal|last=Schroeder|first=Ryan D.|author2=Osgood, Aurea K. |author3=Oghia, Michael J. |title=Family Transitions and Juvenile Delinquency*|journal=Sociological Inquiry|date=November 2010|volume=80|issue=4|pages=579–604|doi=10.1111/j.1475-682X.2010.00351.x|url=http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1475-682X.2010.00351.x/abstract}}</ref> --> <!-- unused <ref name=PMID_18229511>{{cite journal |vauthors=Musitu Ochoa G, Estévez Lopez E, Emler NP |title=Adjustment problems in the family and school contexts, attitude towards authority, and violent behavior at school in adolescence |journal=Adolescence |volume=42 |issue=168 |pages=779–94 |year=2007 |pmid=18229511 }}</ref> --> <ref name="DOI_10.1177/0192513X08322933">{{cite journal|last=Fletcher|first=A. C.|author2=Walls, J.K. |author3=Cook, E.C. |author4=Madison, K.J. |author5=Bridges, T.H. |title=Parenting Style as a Moderator of Associations Between Maternal Disciplinary Strategies and Child Well-Being|journal=Journal of Family Issues|date=December 2008|volume=29|issue=12|pages=1724–44|doi=10.1177/0192513X08322933|s2cid=38460545|url=http://libres.uncg.edu/ir/uncg/f/A_Fletcher_Parenting_2008.pdf}}</ref> <ref name="doi_10.1177/1077559509347012">{{cite journal|last=Finkelhor|first=D.|author2=Ormrod, R. |author3=Turner, H. |author4=Holt, M. |title=Pathways to Poly-Victimization|journal=Child Maltreatment|date=November 2009|volume=14|issue=4|pages=316–29|doi=10.1177/1077559509347012|pmid=19837972|s2cid=14676857|url=http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/pdf/CV181.pdf}}</ref> <!-- unused <ref name=pmid_19636795>{{cite journal |last1=Barboza |first1=Gia Elise |last2=Schiamberg |first2=Lawrence B. |last3=Oehmke |first3=James |last4=Korzeniewski |first4=Steven J. |last5=Post |first5=Lori A. |last6=Heraux |first6=Cedrick G. |title=Individual Characteristics and the Multiple Contexts of Adolescent Bullying: An Ecological Perspective |journal=Journal of Youth and Adolescence |volume=38 |issue=1 |pages=101–21 |year=2009 |pmid=19636795 |doi=10.1007/s10964-008-9271-1 }}</ref> --> <!-- unused <ref name=doi_10.2224/sbp.2008.36.2.145>{{cite journal |last1=Jankauskiene |first1=Rasa |last2=Kardelis |first2=Kestutis |last3=Sukys |first3=Saulius |last4=Kardeliene |first4=Laimute |title=Associations between school bullying and psychosocial factors |journal=Social Behavior and Personality |volume=37 |issue=2 |year=2008 |pages=145–62 |doi=10.2224/sbp.2008.36.2.145 }}</ref> --> }} ==Further reading== * {{cite book |title=Do Parents Matter?: Why Japanese Babies Sleep Soundly, Mexican Siblings Don't Fight & Parents Should Just Relax |year=2017 |author1=Robert Levine |author2=Sarah Levine |isbn=978-0285643703 |publisher=Souvenir Press}} ==External links== * {{wikiquote-inline}} * {{Wiktionary-inline}} {{Parenting|state=expanded}} {{Reproductive health}} {{Authority control}} [[Category:Parenting| ]] [[Category:Childhood]]'